Perfect love

By Shayler Richmond


Humans can strive to love perfectly when we set our intentions and actions on loving completely. 


Perfect love is not absent mistakes; perfect love is absent hate, judgment, envy and abuse. 


“Many of us are comfortable with the notion that love can mean anything to anybody because when we define it with precision and clarity it brings us face to face with our lacks causing terrible alienation,” wrote Bell Hooks (“All About Love,” 2000).


Perfect love is freeing and empowering; perfect love is absent fear and control. 



Perfect love is you steadily evolving into your best self; perfect love is endless space for growth, empathy and connection to yourself and the world around you.


A loving connection is openly and honestly expressing care, affection, responsibility, respect, commitment and trust; to be loving is to cultivate a life rooted with these intentions and actions; absent these pillars true love doesn’t exist; love is whole not segmented.


“People are comfortable with abuse because the only love they have known has been abusive,” wrote Bell Hooks (“All About Love,” 2000).


Perfect love is connecting everything you are to everything that is; perfect love starts with loving ourselves fully; perfect love is authenticity and truth.


“We can give ourselves the unconditional love that is the grounding for sustained acceptance and affirmation. When we give this to ourselves we are able to reach out to others from a place of fulfillment and not from a place of lack,” wrote Bell Hooks (“All About Love,” 2000).


Humans can strive to love perfectly when we set our intentions and actions on loving completely. 


“True love is unconditional, but to truly flourish requires an ongoing commitment to constructive struggle and change,” wrote Bell Hooks (“All About Love,” 2000).